a bunch of moms are making letters+audio recordings of affirming, validating letters to queer/trans* people who don’t get that kind of support from their moms
i would say more about it but
im kind of busy in this puddle of tears on the floor so
In case any of my followers don’t have this kind of support from home…
*me flirting with a sexy lady* ha ha….is your name judith? because you fucking slay. see uh this is funny because uh. well judith slayed both literally and figuratively. *sweats nervously* anyways judith beheaded holofernes and i think you’re beautiful ha ha bye :)
Posting selfies as decolonization. Wearing winged eyeliner & high heels to destroy patriarchy. Watching porn as LGBT liberation.
I really do think liberal activism isn’t too much more than wanting to validate your choices & feeling righteous about contributing to the world in a profound way, while in reality doing absolutely nothing.
“It is not necessary, and in fact not very helpful, to reduce sexuality to a function of reproduction. It is more important to understand that sexuality threatens and yet overcomes the self-centeredness of the self and that it is perhaps for this reason the object of multiple kinds of disciplining. Ideally, sexuality is driven by love of the other, which is, to say the least, the desire to reach out to the other, driven by the longing to overcome the otherness between oneself and the other… Love is about caring for the other, protecting oneself and the other against harm, and finally, the desire to be and stay with the beloved other.” -Hille Haker
WHEN WILL PEOPLE FUCKING REALIZE THAT
DO YOU HAVE ANY FUCKING IDEA
HOW IMPOSSIBLE IT IS
TO LOOK LIKE THIS???
IT’S 100% FUCKING ILLOGICAL TO EXPECT MEN TO HAVE THIS RIPPED SIX-PACK ABS AND BE SKINNY AND HAVE PERFECT SKIN AND FACIAL COMPLEXION! MEN ALSO EXPERIENCE BEING UNCOMFORTABLE WITH OUR BODIES ALL. THE. FUCKING. TIME.
All the time.
I hit words at random on iOS 8’s new predictive text feature so I could see what type of sentence my phone thinks I’m likely to say, and
hugintheraven said: (you posted about this last night) Are queer spaces usually not safe for people of faith? At least in the US, I have a hard time imagining there's anywhere that /isn't/ safe for people of faith. (Speaking generally, of course. I know there's plenty of places that aren't safe for people of the wrong faith, but that wasn't what I think you were talking about)
(Referencing this post by kosherqueer.)
So I’m going to split this answer up into addressing two points - and keep in mind that I am speaking from my own experiences here and I don’t want anyone to assume this has been true for everyone.
Not safe for people of faith
I’ve noticed that a lot of the queer spaces in which I’ve been involved have been very strongly secular - and of course there isn’t anything wrong with that. As a member of a minority faith, I encourage it (otherwise anything religious starts to take on a majority religion feel - see next point) and I also know that a lot of the people in those spaces have been hurt and excluded because of the faith groups in which they grew up. But there are often a lot of assumptions being made that everyone in these spaces are secular or atheists and so people and that all religions and faiths are harmful to queer people and this leads to a lot of cruel and mocking comments about what religion and how religion is inherently intolerant and brainwashing and that people of faith are sheep and stupid, etc.
I actually have a friend (who may be reading this and will be left unnamed unless they tell me they want their URL here) who stopped volunteering for a local queer rights organization partly because a volunteer coordinator was so loudly anti-religion and so dismissive of anyone religious that he made them feel unwelcome. I felt unwelcome as well but because he was higher up in the organization than I was (I was just an intern), I didn’t feel comfortable speaking up past a certain point.
Overall, a lot of people would vocally blame religious people and religion for intolerance and homophobia in society and while this is certainly a problem in a lot of religious contexts, the conversation began to sound less like “there are a lot of faith groups that use religion to justify homophobia and that’s disgusting” and more like “religion is outdated and the root of all intolerance in society and we should get rid of all of it and teach the gullible religious people that they’re wrong.”
Often I felt as if people were trying to convert me from my religion and my culture which was just too religious to fit neatly into their religious/homophobe - secular/queer dichotomy.
Not safe for people of the wrong faith
As a Jew, and so as a member of a minority faith, this cropped up in three ways. One, people assumed that everything they had found wrong in mainstream Christianity applied people of all religions. If someone had been victimized by a Christian community because they were queer, they would often turn their (obviously understandable) anger and derision towards people of other religions as well. For example, while the Christian interpretation of the sin of Sodom has traditionally been gay sex (hence “sodomy”), the Jewish interpretation has traditionally been that the sin was being inhospitable to guests and strangers - but people would refer to the Christian interpretation as if all religious people held that opinion of sin.
Two, even among queer people of faith, my own religion was dismissed or minimized with Christianity being the reference point. For example, I was invited by (that same) local queer rights organization to join an outreach program managed by queer people faith targeting faith communities as allies. I was the only non-Christian there. Not only was the entire meeting overwhelmingly Christian referenced but the opening prayer was actually and literally in Jesus’ name.
Other religions weren’t represented at all and when I brought up reaching out to mosques and Muslim queers, the facilitator actually said that she didn’t think she’d find anyone to connect with in the Muslim community, the assumption being that religious Muslims were necessarily homophobic - the same sort of assumptions that many of the non-religious people in the organization held toward all people of faith.
Needless to say, I did not return to this program.
Three, prejudices like Islamophobia and anti-Semitism exist just as strongly in queer communities as they do anywhere else and left unaddressed they become poisonous. Being secular and “enlightened” and “hating all religions” does not keep people from being bigoted towards persons of minority faiths.
So you can see the predicament this left me and other queer people of faith who looked for a safe space for one aspect of themselves only to find another aspect of themselves deemed unacceptable.
Secular queers can get pretty nasty and unwelcoming to queer people of faith and make all sorts of assumptions about queer people of minority faiths (Jewish, Muslim, etc.) that leave safe spaces not so safe at all.